Friday, June 4, 2010

A Good Friend is Hard to Find

For Allah knows the secrets of heaven and earth,
and He knows what you reveal and what you conceal. (Holy Quran, AL-imran:29)

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious and the Most Merciful. Peace be upon our messenger Prophet Muhammad SAW.

While i am writing this entry, i am in a very deep sorrow where there is no one to trust and no one to turn to. I feel so small and alone, like a dot on a piece of white paper. Like a nightingale which has just lost one wing. Dear God, why do in this world the power of evil surpasses the good? Why do in this world envy drives a person to slander others? If only they comprehend Chapter 49 in the Quran and learn to practice the proper Islamic teaching, the world will be in peace. But unfortunately, we can only preach and it depends on the individual to follow the right path.

Well, i am not perfect and in fact nobody is. But I dont want to be a Munafiq (hypocrite) who betrays/tells a lie/ insult others but it eaten me up when somebody tries to corrupt my image and reputation. And worse of all, that person is being judgemental without knowing me well. And when the person that we thought is our friend turns to be an enemy, now that i realize the truth of Prophet Muhammad's saying:

"A good friend and a bad friend are like a perfume-seller and a blacksmith: The perfume-seller might give you some perfume as a gift, or you might buy some from him, or at least you might smell its fragrance. As for the blacksmith, he might singe your clothes, and at the very least you will breathe in the fumes of the furnace."

Whenever I am down, i will analyse my mistakes and look for improvement. I remind myself it is only a test from God.

Thanks Allah for making me aware of being a true Muslim. I am blessed. As quoted from the Quran again, "Allah knows what you hide and what you reveal and He knows the recompense which you earn by your deeds.


Anonymous said...

woah,i'm actually the first to comment.usually i'm the last due to your devoted followers :D , guess this makes me a devoted follower too eh :P

Well,i can't comment specifically since i don't comprehend the whole situation.but,theres something that i can say,

Humans are,well,humans.they tend to do things their own way without others consent sometimes,or many times.Maybe theyre not wise enough.
Richard Templar says that:

wise is being able to get away from mistakes in the future with your sanity and pride intact due to the mistakes u have done in the past.

Maybe this particular person that hurt u is not wise enough,or maybe he havent got into this situation that u have gone through countless times.maybe if he got hurt the same way he hurt u,he will realise that he is immature for doing so.

let him be,u are yourself and nobody else can say that they know u.just pray to god to give u patience to go through this.cos
what goes around comes around right :)

SnoW whiTe said...

Dear Nazrin,
congrats for being the 1st to comment today. Frankly speaking, i just updated my blog and u happen to view it at the right time.

I'm sorry i cant tell the whole situation here due to saving the face of that particular person.Maybe i can borrow Mr Templar's book one day. hehe.

Visit me here more often. Your presence brighten this blog ;)

Niezam said...

Hi, it true for what you have said. Most of the time people just like to blame others rather than to scrutiny our own mistake. I feel sorry for what you have to go through. Indeed, I have to admit it really hard to find a good friend. Only time could define what the good friend is.

It is ok to know our friend true colour, at least God give you a chance to judge them weightily.

As for me when people did something bad to me I always use this Al-Quran verse as a guidance:-

Nor can goodness and Evil be equal. Repel (Evil) with what is better: Then will he between whom and thee was hatred become as it were thy friend and intimate!(Al- Fussilat 34)

For most of the time it work for me and of course it will work to everybody because it is Allah's promise.

Hope you you will feeling well soon, cheer :)

Anonymous said...

Hey there niezam,woulou care to explain that passage from qur'an that u just gave?
I don't quite understand it but It sounded really interesting.
Thanks in advance :)

Niezam said...

Assalamualaikum.. i give you the Malay's translation and a little bit of explanation about the verse, Insyallah, I hope you will understand it :)

Tolaklah (Kejahatan yang ditujukan kepadamu) dengan cara yang lebih baik.Apabila engkau berlaku demikian orang yang menaruh permusuhan terhadapmu, dengan cara serta-merta menjadi seolah-olah seorang sahabat karib

Maksudnya setiap penganiayaan ynag ditimbulkan oleh seseorang itu tidaklah boleh dibalas dengan yang sama.Contohnya kalu orang mengumpat kita tidak dibalas dengan umpatan, orang mencaci tak boleh la dibalas dengan maki hamun dan seterusnya juga dengan kejahatan2 yng lain tak boleh dibalas dengan kejahatan.

Sebenarnye ada cerita teladan disebalik ayat ini. Syaidina Ali, pada satu ketika baginda telah dicaci dan dimaki hamun oleh, sesorang, maka baginda menghadiahkan kepada orang itu sehelai pakaian dan memberikanya wang seribu dirham.

Harap Nazrin dapat faham, untuk kefahaman lanjut boleh jugak rujuk tafsir Surah Al-Hujurat ayat 11-12 yg lebih banyak menceritakan tentang sifat buruk sangka, mengintip dan mencari kesalahan org lain dan mengumpat atau membuat umpatan antara satu dengan yang lain. (Rujuk keseluruhan surah Al-Hujurat lagi bagus sebab surah nie ada 19 ayat sahaja)


Anonymous said...

Waalaikumussalam Niezam,
Thanx a lot for the translation of the excerpt.Will try and dig deeper into the surah :D

SnoW whiTe said...


i agree wit Niezam.
THanks folks for the discussion. I am now in Angel's Court, India at my sister's crib.

Old dwarf said...

have a nice holiday me some souvenir..i want saree..haha..ohh..dun 4get to have a ride on the taxi with 3wheels..must be fun...

Lina^ Chan said...

I am sorry to hear that, dear. There will always be a judgmental people in this world...and we can never resist them. I understand the feelings..of how it was strong and keep praying to day people would know the truth with Allah's will, insha Allah.

SnoW whiTe said...

YEah, Lina.
Friends are everywhre, but its hard to trust them all the time. Only God knows why.

Old Dwarf, i'd seen the taxi with the three wheel. Hehe. i feel like being in a hindustan movie :p

mayb i should be looking for a movie shooting =)