Thursday, February 25, 2010

The Second Child Syndrome

I went through an article about middle child syndrome, it was quite interesting to discover that i might be one of the victims, but i never give a damn about it. LOL. Most of the characteristics mentioned match my personality, though. Visit :

Here are some of the examples:

1.The middle or second born child or children often have the sense of not belonging. They fight to receive attention from parents and others because they feel many times they are being ignored or dubbed off as being the same as another sibling.

--> I often being ignored by my parents since i was a child, not in the sense of gaining attention but in term of being pampered. I looked after my younger siblings as early as the age of four, and got blame for all their mischief which has never happend to my elder bro. This is soo..unfair.

2. Being a middle child would mean they are loners.They really don’t like to latch on to a person in a relationship, there fore they have trouble keeping one due to lack of interest.

--> For certain extent, yes... i am a lone Ranger. I do and decide my things my own way. I have the heart of stone. I speak up and protect the ones I love.

3. They are however very artistic and creative.The best career move for a middle child would be along the lines of using their creativity.

--> Exactly. I do paintings and drawing. I rebelled myself through poetry. I wrote my own songs and sealed it safe in my own secret place.

4. Going into a writing or journalism career, and into a career that they could freely express themselves would be good.

---> Haha. Journalism suits me once in a blue moon. Yeah, that was my dream career before i indulge myself into the field of education.

5. Since relationships are not of high importance to a middle child, often times they are alone. However, the best possible match for a middle child would be a last born.

--> The last born? Anyone there a last born and interested with me? LOL. This could be true. He will agree with this * wink.

Actually, both my mom and dad are also the middle child. I have talked to them about this issue and it seemed they experienced the same things. Hehe. But of coz this happened to us and parents rarely notice about this since many give attention to the first child or the youngest ones. Never we realize the 2nd born will feel dishearten and neglected among siblings. Though my parents acknowledge this issue, they still forgot about me being the middle child as well. But i accept this as a blessing from God.

But you almost forget that there is always one good thing about being the second child:

YOU are independent
You have great influence over the younger siblings..
since your parents trust you more
than the eldest.



Niezam said...

Welcome to 2nd child club :)Based on my experience as a middle child, the characteristics listed, to the certain extent might be true. However it will also depend on how those child are treated by his/her parents and how they socialize in the community.

Old dwarf said...

old dwarf is back after been humiliated on the last post...kene kaw2 pnye..haha...
about the 2nd child syndrome..i also the 2nd is true that we alwez been ignored...but that is not soo bad..we can do anything by our own decision..
no 5 is quite 'ehem2' is last born child..and i know y we,the 2nd born child are very suite with the last born child...

SnoW whiTe said...

Hi everyone..welcome to the 2nd child club ;)
This is where you can ramble your thought and voice out ur opinions. hehe.

I cant believe both of u are also the middle child. Seems we are being ignored in the family quite often right. Nizam, u r rite abt how it depends on the child.

And Old Dwarf, we know we are independent. tats why a last born child suits us :p

Anonymous said...

funny, ive read this post earlier this evening but didnt get the chance to comment since my laptop was tired.

i'm the 2nd too =)

mostly what u wrote on this post happens,especially the lonely part.

but its not all bad.eventhough i can conclude that 2nd child are neurotic,we r the matured child group though not that self-dependable as we get bad things dumped on us all the time haha.

we strive under those circumstances and thats what make us mentally-independent.dont u agree?

SnoW whiTe said...

Haha..nazrin, u r back!
Yes, you are definitely right - bad things got dumped on us all the time. And since 2nd child enjoy something that gives them freedom to express things, this really explains why ALL OF YOU are here! ;)

And we need opinion from the non- middle child though. But guess they are not as mentally brave, independent, genuine and cool as us, then :p

The Lightbringer said...

I believe that all people were created with unique characteristics regardless of which number of child you are. Only environmental elements around us that affects the development of human personality.

What i wanna say is if we believe what the research says, we'll be what the research says about us.
I prefer unique individual approach rather than generalized one. I'm also a middle child.

Welcome back Old dwarf, don't worry you will be fine now('',)


SnoW whiTe said...

Old dwarf has a loyal fan now! LOL.

Anonymous said...

hye miss..diz is naqiuddin:)
err...imoso middle child in my sibs..i oso experienced d same situations,quite d same lar..
where did u get those info??

Anonymous said...

hey miss!
we are alike, i myself too the 2nd child in my family.
but to me the facts weren't that exactly true.
except for the part of being a "lone Ranger".LOL. i hate crowds and i intend to avoid them occasionally and it helps me think better when im alone. but being alone sometimes really sucks. haha!

-Riduan a.k.a Roy macintosh

SnoW whiTe said...

Hello qiu and riduan,
Welcome to the club!Thanks for your comments. Well,i'v known the info for a long time but only last week i felt 2google it on the net.

Since many of us are here, why not we organize an event or talk about The Middle Child Syndrome. LOL.

Our parents could be our VIP guests.