I officially graduated my M.A yesterday. The event took place at USM NIbol Tebal, P.Pinang.. with lots of love and joyful moments with family and friends.
It feels good.
Seriously, it feels like a wedding ceremony..
Except the groom is not there :p
Thank you everyone for your support through the lonely and challenging journey.
I owe you my hugs.
Sunday, March 20, 2011
Sunday, February 13, 2011
I will Reach You
If you've got a candle,
you'd better light it now.
If you've got a voice,
you'd better shout out loud.
Raise your hands above this crowd,
I will reach you :)
you'd better light it now.
If you've got a voice,
you'd better shout out loud.
Raise your hands above this crowd,
I will reach you :)
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Brainy vs Attitude
You know you're getting old(er) when your friends are getting married and start having kids. ~Old-town friend, 2010.
Is marriage the bond of two minds?
10 years ago, my ideal boyfriend would be someone who is:
1 - Handsome (..with a cute smile to die for!)
2- Impressive personality
3- Intelligent and smart
4- Rich but money comes the last!
To tell you the truth...10 years ago, I believed in the love of Romeo and Juliet, when you fall in love with a handsome guy who is able to sacrifice anything for you. Materials are out of the questions coz I believed in true love in which it could happen in a second and it haunts you forever once you are hooked to that someone. Love is sweet, love is what makes the world go round.
Conclusion: Good looks on the top of the list, followed by the guy's personality, intelligence and money income.
What happens after 5 years?
...I started deciding that my ideal soulmate would be someone who is:
1) Intelligent enough to impress me and my gilrfriends
2) Charismatic personality
3) Handsome
4) Not so rich since money comes with an effort
Yes, 5 years ago, intelligence becomes my priority.I realized a smart and brainy man would hold a potential future of a better living. Attitude is important too but looks matter less. Money is essential but someone who is striving for money by his own is better than the wealth inherited from the family. Being wise and intelligent helps you to get more money in the future.
Conclusion: Intelligence comes on the top, followed by charismatic personality, good looks and economical stability.
What happens after 3 years to now?
...now.., i started selecting that my ideal future husband would be someone who is:
1) Wise in personality with strong religious view
2) Strong financial background but not necessarily rich
3) Smart but not necessarily intelligent
4) Handsome but not necessarily cute
Conclusion: Personality ranks the top, followed by money, intelligence and good looks.
Now, i realized life is not a fairy tale. Attitude and money go along together. You can never survive your life and parents' expectation without them.An intelligent man is none without a strong good personality, wise judgement and strong religious view. Looks do not matter anymore while wealth does. They give you power to regain influence in your family. You can't live with love alone. In order to nurture the love, you need money to sustain the relationship.
Weird.
People's perception changes.
I am confused of what ppl really want in a marriage.
But our Malay society shapes me.
Is marriage the bond of two minds?
10 years ago, my ideal boyfriend would be someone who is:
1 - Handsome (..with a cute smile to die for!)
2- Impressive personality
3- Intelligent and smart
4- Rich but money comes the last!
To tell you the truth...10 years ago, I believed in the love of Romeo and Juliet, when you fall in love with a handsome guy who is able to sacrifice anything for you. Materials are out of the questions coz I believed in true love in which it could happen in a second and it haunts you forever once you are hooked to that someone. Love is sweet, love is what makes the world go round.
Conclusion: Good looks on the top of the list, followed by the guy's personality, intelligence and money income.
What happens after 5 years?
...I started deciding that my ideal soulmate would be someone who is:
1) Intelligent enough to impress me and my gilrfriends
2) Charismatic personality
3) Handsome
4) Not so rich since money comes with an effort
Yes, 5 years ago, intelligence becomes my priority.I realized a smart and brainy man would hold a potential future of a better living. Attitude is important too but looks matter less. Money is essential but someone who is striving for money by his own is better than the wealth inherited from the family. Being wise and intelligent helps you to get more money in the future.
Conclusion: Intelligence comes on the top, followed by charismatic personality, good looks and economical stability.
What happens after 3 years to now?
...now.., i started selecting that my ideal future husband would be someone who is:
1) Wise in personality with strong religious view
2) Strong financial background but not necessarily rich
3) Smart but not necessarily intelligent
4) Handsome but not necessarily cute
Conclusion: Personality ranks the top, followed by money, intelligence and good looks.
Now, i realized life is not a fairy tale. Attitude and money go along together. You can never survive your life and parents' expectation without them.An intelligent man is none without a strong good personality, wise judgement and strong religious view. Looks do not matter anymore while wealth does. They give you power to regain influence in your family. You can't live with love alone. In order to nurture the love, you need money to sustain the relationship.
Weird.
People's perception changes.
I am confused of what ppl really want in a marriage.
But our Malay society shapes me.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Mommy, I love you
I'd been staying at Ipoh Hospital for three days.
Mommy is warded due to her excessive lump on her right part of body.
Unfortunately, the stay had turned out damn boring with no entertainment etc (plus, the wifi is slow and i failed to access the internet at all!). I tried to finish reading the autobiography of Mahatma Gandi - the Experimental of Truth, but the lights off lead me listening to the mp3 i borrowed from Ika.
The best and least thing i could do is - I used to lay down on bed beside Mom all the time.
Some nurses are just annoying, not to mention the Pak Guard who scolded visitors who break the rules of visiting time.
Thank God Mom shows a gradual change of a better health condition.
Taking care of her reminds me of her constant love and care towards her children.
Touching her hands grasps my thought of how lucky to be close to her right now.
I miss you, Mom.
I love you now and until the day i lose my breath.
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Hukum Tarikan - Penyelesaian Persepsi Masalah Rumahtangga?
Edisi Ke-tiga
Saya terpanggil untuk memberi sedikit komen tentang masalah rumahtangga yang dilalui oleh masyarakat kita seperti yang dipaparkan di akhbar, risalah dan artikel di internet. Baru-baru ini terdapat pula kes di mana perbezaan umur antara suami dan isteri juga dijadikan isu untuk berbalah. Kes penceraian Norman hakim dan Abby Abadi juga sering diperkatakan oleh pelbagai pihak. Malah, Abby yang masih cantik juga diketepikan oleh suaminya disebabkan ingin memperisterikan si dia yang lebih muda. Ada juga pendapat mengatakan, tidak kira si isteri seorang yang sempurna, cantik dan pandai mengemas rumah atau tidak, jika suami sudah bosan dengan isterinya, dia tetap akan pasang satu lagi. Umur juga kadangkala dijadikan satu sebab utk sesebuah pasangan itu bertengkar.
Pada pendapat saya, tidak kira berapa beza umur suami atau isteri itu, tolak ansur dan saling memahami itu penting. Mungkin ada pendapat mengatakan bahawa suami yg lebih muda lambat laun akan bosan dengan isteri yang lebih tua daripadanya dan seterusnya akan mengahwini perempuan yg lebih muda dan cantik. Islam telahpun menggariskan panduan utk mencari calon suami dan isteri iaitu agama menjadi aset paling penting. Jadi, tidak kira lah sama ada si suami itu lebih tua atau muda, jika dia mahu curang dan membelakangkan isteri, perkara tersebut tetap akan berlaku. Namun, jika kebetulan lelakinya muda, masyarakat akan menuding jari kepada kelemahan si isteri kerana telah memilih calon suami yang lebih muda daripadanya dan hal ini menjadi penyebab rumah tangga itu bergolak. Jika lelaki itu lebih tua pula, masyarakat akan menyalahkan isteri juga kerana tidak pandai menjaga penampilan dan makan minum si suami. Pendek kata, masalah sebegini kerap menjadi bualan masyarakat dan kita tidak dapat lari daripadanya. Isteri menjadi mangsa keadaan dalam menghadapi tohmahan semua pihak.
Samada kita menyedarinya atau tidak, kisah rumahtangga di dada akhbar juga sering digembar-gemburkan dengan isu penceraian, penderaan pasangan, masuk campur keluarga mertua dan masalah kewangan. Hampir setiap minggu, kisah ini dilaporkan untuk tatapan pembaca. Tidakkah kita sedari bahawa disebabkan kita sering melihat sudut negatif sesuatu perkara, kita akhirnya menarik tenaga negatif di sekeliling kita dan cenderung terjebak dengan gejala yang negatif juga. Contohnya, jika kita sering memikirkan seseorang, orang yang kita fikir mungkin menelefon kita pada keesokan harinya. Dan apabila kita membenci sangat2 pada seseorang, orang yang seperti itu lah yang kita akan jumpa pada hari berikutnya. Ini ialah prinsip Hukum Tarikan. Positif menarik positif, negatif menarik negatif juga.
Oleh itu, mengapa tidak kita lihat dan fokus pada kisah2 perkahwinan yang bahagia di mana ianya boleh menjadi teladan utk mereka yang baru ingin mendirikan rumahtangga. Nescaya, tenaga positif yang diambil daripada kisah-kisah tersebut dapat membimbing kita untuk menjadi modal insan yang lebih baik dan berkepimpinan.
XxPuteri Salju..xx
Saya terpanggil untuk memberi sedikit komen tentang masalah rumahtangga yang dilalui oleh masyarakat kita seperti yang dipaparkan di akhbar, risalah dan artikel di internet. Baru-baru ini terdapat pula kes di mana perbezaan umur antara suami dan isteri juga dijadikan isu untuk berbalah. Kes penceraian Norman hakim dan Abby Abadi juga sering diperkatakan oleh pelbagai pihak. Malah, Abby yang masih cantik juga diketepikan oleh suaminya disebabkan ingin memperisterikan si dia yang lebih muda. Ada juga pendapat mengatakan, tidak kira si isteri seorang yang sempurna, cantik dan pandai mengemas rumah atau tidak, jika suami sudah bosan dengan isterinya, dia tetap akan pasang satu lagi. Umur juga kadangkala dijadikan satu sebab utk sesebuah pasangan itu bertengkar.
Pada pendapat saya, tidak kira berapa beza umur suami atau isteri itu, tolak ansur dan saling memahami itu penting. Mungkin ada pendapat mengatakan bahawa suami yg lebih muda lambat laun akan bosan dengan isteri yang lebih tua daripadanya dan seterusnya akan mengahwini perempuan yg lebih muda dan cantik. Islam telahpun menggariskan panduan utk mencari calon suami dan isteri iaitu agama menjadi aset paling penting. Jadi, tidak kira lah sama ada si suami itu lebih tua atau muda, jika dia mahu curang dan membelakangkan isteri, perkara tersebut tetap akan berlaku. Namun, jika kebetulan lelakinya muda, masyarakat akan menuding jari kepada kelemahan si isteri kerana telah memilih calon suami yang lebih muda daripadanya dan hal ini menjadi penyebab rumah tangga itu bergolak. Jika lelaki itu lebih tua pula, masyarakat akan menyalahkan isteri juga kerana tidak pandai menjaga penampilan dan makan minum si suami. Pendek kata, masalah sebegini kerap menjadi bualan masyarakat dan kita tidak dapat lari daripadanya. Isteri menjadi mangsa keadaan dalam menghadapi tohmahan semua pihak.
Samada kita menyedarinya atau tidak, kisah rumahtangga di dada akhbar juga sering digembar-gemburkan dengan isu penceraian, penderaan pasangan, masuk campur keluarga mertua dan masalah kewangan. Hampir setiap minggu, kisah ini dilaporkan untuk tatapan pembaca. Tidakkah kita sedari bahawa disebabkan kita sering melihat sudut negatif sesuatu perkara, kita akhirnya menarik tenaga negatif di sekeliling kita dan cenderung terjebak dengan gejala yang negatif juga. Contohnya, jika kita sering memikirkan seseorang, orang yang kita fikir mungkin menelefon kita pada keesokan harinya. Dan apabila kita membenci sangat2 pada seseorang, orang yang seperti itu lah yang kita akan jumpa pada hari berikutnya. Ini ialah prinsip Hukum Tarikan. Positif menarik positif, negatif menarik negatif juga.
Oleh itu, mengapa tidak kita lihat dan fokus pada kisah2 perkahwinan yang bahagia di mana ianya boleh menjadi teladan utk mereka yang baru ingin mendirikan rumahtangga. Nescaya, tenaga positif yang diambil daripada kisah-kisah tersebut dapat membimbing kita untuk menjadi modal insan yang lebih baik dan berkepimpinan.
XxPuteri Salju..xx
Friday, January 7, 2011
Saya Pun Suka Awak :)
Saya suka awak. Saya nak awak hadir selalu di samping saya - Cornetto Love.
I wish he could give me a strawberry cornetto...
like the lovers i watched on the TV.
I wish we could sit on the bench near the lake...
like the loving couples i read in a love story.
I wish we could grow old together and be in each other 's arms.
I wish i could hold you close and never let go.
I wish i could wait for you...
like a princess waiting for the hero.
I wish i could.
I love you.
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Goodbye 2010
Don't compare yourself with others.
Look at the qualities inside you - those that others dream to have.
~Home-town best friend.
~A Tribute To My Girl friends~
It's the New Year Eve.
I didn't celebrate the joy of bunga api like the other teenagers on the streets at my hometown do. Heck, in fact i am not a teenager no more, i cant believe that it's difficult to swallow the truth that your age would increase year by year. It doesn't matter how young or old you look, but you'll grow old at the end somehow. Like the wise men say, beauty fades away slowly without we noticing it. Yeah, i eventually agree with it. That's when i started to flashback the memory in childhood, high school and college years. I miss my friends. I miss all my girl-friends. I miss the glory of achieving good grades in academics, chasing after boys, gaining popularity in cheerleaders, playing prank calls to the most-hated person, having coffee in the campfire etc. And yeah, girls..we won the theater competition in our History class while in form 2! ;)
Cheer- leaders!
As much as we miss the moments, time and tide waits for no one.
One by one of our buddies falls in love and gets married.
At least, it is not the puppy love we ever talked and laughed at during high school.
But i am sorry to hear that some relationships are not working well.
I am sorry to know that some ends a single mother at a very young age.
But remember - the baby you cuddle in your arms can call me "Mommy" too! :)
The kids we have or gonna have would have a different sets of Moms to love and protect them.
Be positive.
Don't raise the white flag yet.
Look at the qualities inside you - those that others dream to have.
~Home-town best friend.
~A Tribute To My Girl friends~
It's the New Year Eve.
I didn't celebrate the joy of bunga api like the other teenagers on the streets at my hometown do. Heck, in fact i am not a teenager no more, i cant believe that it's difficult to swallow the truth that your age would increase year by year. It doesn't matter how young or old you look, but you'll grow old at the end somehow. Like the wise men say, beauty fades away slowly without we noticing it. Yeah, i eventually agree with it. That's when i started to flashback the memory in childhood, high school and college years. I miss my friends. I miss all my girl-friends. I miss the glory of achieving good grades in academics, chasing after boys, gaining popularity in cheerleaders, playing prank calls to the most-hated person, having coffee in the campfire etc. And yeah, girls..we won the theater competition in our History class while in form 2! ;)
Prom-night Queens
Cheer- leaders!As much as we miss the moments, time and tide waits for no one.
One by one of our buddies falls in love and gets married.
At least, it is not the puppy love we ever talked and laughed at during high school.
But i am sorry to hear that some relationships are not working well.
I am sorry to know that some ends a single mother at a very young age.
But remember - the baby you cuddle in your arms can call me "Mommy" too! :)
The kids we have or gonna have would have a different sets of Moms to love and protect them.
Be positive.
Don't raise the white flag yet.
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